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I completely understand when people believe I’m just a Ct. wedding photographer in Central Ct. But here’s the thing, really two things, The first, I don’t believe that there’s a “JUST” to being a wedding photographer. It is, after all, one of the most important factors to a wedding day. The other is being located in Ct.
I was recently asked about a wedding I shot in Portland Oregon. Just about as far away as I can get while staying in the country. They wanted to know why I enjoyed being a destination wedding photographer. And I guess the first thing that I loved was how one couple knew me as a ct. wedding photographer while now, this other couple knows me as a destination wedding photographer.
Really they’re both one in the same but I’m sure, if you asked any of the destination wedding photographers out there, it’s about so many great things. From the aspects of travel, to the new location, to still being part of your day. When shooting a wedding that’s out of my area it becomes more of a journey. A journey that brings me into this couples day, so much closer.
So what is it about being a destination wedding photographer that I love??? Quite simply, the adventure, being invited into a couples day and capturing the adventure they’re on. The moments, the energy of this new location and the love of coming together while away in a distant location. All so great!!!
I may be known as a remarkable wedding photographer from New England but I’m also a wedding photographer that has been and still is married. I was recently chatting with my wife about this and that and a talk came up on planning in general. How tips are great, news is great but where should a newly engaged couple start. It dawned on me that, OMG! I’m writing tips that truly may not matter if you’re too stressed out to deal with them by the time you get to that point… Sooooooooooo, let’s slow down. Lets start basic and work our way up… What do you say?
Let us start together with one of the most emotional struggles women may face. Engagements. One of the most psychological transitions in our lives. With this new engagement may come fear, sadness, anxiety and loss. All feelings that all seem to get overlooked by so many. People would rather ask, when’s the big day, what’s the ring look like, where did it happen! When in reality, it’s those other feelings that need to be overcome if one ever plans to arrive at the alter happy and ready for a life long and love filled marriage.
Feeling a bit lost? Understandable. As women, you are giving up the soul identity you have come to create. With your friends, on your own. You are no longer going to be a single women. You are going to not only give up that single status, A feeling that you may believe is your only relation with your single girlfriends, but you are giving up part of your identity. You will have a new last name (if you choose to take it) and more. All a stage in your life, possibly the only stage you have ever created is going to now be a closed chapter… The loss is understandable but the future is going to be gold!!!
What if you look at that gold and know that as one chapter closes a new one begins. A chapter of love, togetherness and fun! It’s quite possible for a bit of fear to show itself here as you are entering this new chapter which will rely heavily on another individuals commitment as well. Putting your futures happiness onto this other individual partnered with yourself. What if the marriage doesn’t last, what if he cheats on me, what if I cheat on him, what if something happens to me or him, what if the love fades away. These are all thoughts and fears that can come at a bride who even on the outside may seem joyous.
As I mentioned above, as a future bride you’re bombarded with congrats, and what will your dress look like, what will the wedding day be… And more… While deep inside you may be wondering if you’re making the right choice. Is this the right partner for my life? Is this what I truly want? These feelings are normal and you’re better off to find a friend, relative or if need be a DR. to listen to you. Truly listen and help. The other alternative which many people opt for is to take all the planning and let it comsume you as a whole. Not giving those other feelings a chance to come out. The right thing to do?????
All of these thoughts are normal. Don’t worry. Don’t run… They ARE NORMAL! Instead, look back. Look at the years you have already lived and the transitions you have not only made it through but more than likely prospered with. Graduating from highschool and college. Moving out of your hometown. Leaving one secure job for a new endeavor. All of your co-workers, friends and family understood and sympathized with your feelings. BUT… Did you let those feelings drag you down or did you rally your troops, took the steps to the future and raised the flags with full colour?? Did you not take the steps and made them glow? Did you not enjoy what the future held? Did you not just say “DAMN! I made the right choice on that one!!!”…. Because that’s what this is about. Rally the troops, raise the flags and know that yes, you’re making the right choice. Just don’t let it all be pushed deep inside. Let the feelings glow and them put them out because the love and happiness in the future will over power all!!!!
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